Rhythm, motivation, goals & the future what do these have in common and what am I struggling so much with this?
Rhythm, motivation, goals & the future
To be brutally honest, I’m struggling with all the free time I suddenly have after I quit my job. I was filled with motivation to do many things when I stopped working in late April. I’d made many plans on what I was going to do. During the road trip I had no issues filling up the free time available (obviously). But now that this is over and my “normal” day rhythm is gone too, I’m struggling with what to do. Perhaps I need to set new goals…..different goals…..something exciting.
My mom just dropped by for her afternoon with Miss CF. She is already retired, in the traditional sense of the word, and has all the time in the world to do fun stuff. We got talking about a life rhythm and motivation once you no longer have a job. She also experienced difficulties adjusting to not having a rhythm. You prepare yourself for this, but it’s a lot tougher than you might thing (well for us two at least). Some people might be good at making/keeping a (new) life rhythm, apparently I’m not. Initially I didn’t think this was a problem, but now I’m not so sure.
That being said, I love to do spontaneous things, like going out for a tour with a boat owned by a fellow blogger! That kind of stuff really makes me happy. It’s also a luxury that comes from being HOT. But not all days are that good, nor are there many people around to do fun stuff with during the week. Guess what, most people still have a job. So hurry up the bunch of you! Need more people to do fun stuff with during the week 😉
— Cheesy Finance (@CheesyFinance) August 28, 2018
Motivation is a strange thing. It comes and goes, it’s affected by sleep, food and your mental state of mind. I had loads of motivation to leave the job I didn’t really like. Tons of motivation to start my side hustle (because I was running away from my unsatisfactory job). I was also looking forward to do lots of renovation works.
For some reason (lack of sleep due to a distorted life rhythm might be part of the problem), a lot of my motivation is gone. I’ve become extremely good lately at wasting time online, watching movies and just not really being productive. That being said, I do still keep the household running (read: grocery shopping, cleaning, cooking and taking care of Miss and Mrs CF).
Renovations are not as enjoyable as I thought it would be (due to my lack of patience). I’ve been quite busy a bit over the past few weeks, but I’m far from done. That realization also does not really help much. Seems like and endless list of stuff to do. There is obviously the reward once you finish something, but the realization that you are not even close to done yet does not allow you to enjoy said completion much.
Setting goals can be important for some and crucial for others. Not sure in which category I fall. The only real goal I had over the past 5 years or so was to become FIRE, or at least have enough to get out from under the (mental) burden of the unsatisfactory job(s). I’ve been very focussed on this goal, and fortunately successfully too. However, it’s now time to find something new. Something exciting, I just don’t know what. Albeit that ECO Castle is still on my mind, crazy as that idea might be.
The side hustle is fun too, but I’m not sure if that is the goal I need (or want) to chase. I also don’t want that to become too successful and turn it into a job. That would be the wrong thing to do. However, I do like to have options to spend my time as I please and have some degree of flexibility.
As I get older I also seem to want to have more of a “legacy”, guess I’m looking for a goal that has some purpose to it. Just no idea of what that could be at this stage. Very much wandering here. Gosh I’m getting philosophical now, which is totally not my thing! I prefer to keep my feet firmly on the ground. But I do feel that I need something to strive to, something special, something exciting and new. Something I have not done before.
Perhaps this is just all a phase and I need to roll with it. I do seem to need more of a rhythm and I definitely need to work out more to get my endorphin levels up. I’ve been slacking on the food side too, so need to up my intake of healthy food and lower that of snacks and beer. But motivation, eh? 😉
As to the larger things (and goals) in life, perhaps I need to reach out and work with other people on this. I probably should also try several things to see for what I can create a passion. Like most, I work better under pressure and need to be held accountable by others. I seem to have a very bad personal discipline, getting together with others can mitigate this. Plus, as an extrovert, I love hanging out with other people.
Just to be clear, and despite your best intentions, I’m not looking for your advice or recommendations on any of this. I want to figure this thing out on my own, in my own time and on my own terms. I want to make “mistakes” and learn from them. Only this works for me to make sure my happiness levels remain high in the long run.
Sorry for all this incoherent brabbling, but I needed to write this down to be able to think about it properly. A blog can be such a handy thing sometimes 😉