Suddenly it hit me. I know what I’m missing now that I’m no longer employed. I need people around me, I need to be able to talk and share ideas, right now I’m lonely!
Let me start to note that I’m not depressed and that you should not worry. But I came to the realization in the last few weeks that I’m lonely! I’m very much an extrovert. People who know me, know I talk a lot (no really, a lot! Shutting up is not my forte).
As an extrovert I seem to actually get energy from other people. By being able to talk to other people I get new ideas. But I also am able to process my own thoughts and better formulate my opinions. I love to discuss, question and reason with others. Generally that is, some people do frustrate me and have the opposite effect. But fortunately there are relatively few of those around. However, this is what I love about the FIRE community. We are not the same, have different ways we look at things, but there are many basic philosophies that binds us. Great crowd!
Having been at home now for about 2,5 months straight almost every day of the week, I came to the realization that I need more direct person-to-person interactions. I’m certainly not unhappy, and stress levels are pretty much gone, but I do miss something. I’m also not bored. On the contrary, but I’m doing daily life primarily on my own. So I’m lonely and need to fix that. That being said, I have no intention to go back to work!
Not the first time
It is actually not the first time I realize this. In my career I have been on extended trips abroad. But that also resulted in periods of 3-4 weeks that I was home, alone! That is not a bad thing if you have worked 12 hour shifts for 7 days per week for 8 weeks in a row. Trust me, that first week you sleep a lot! But by the time you hit week 4, you are bored out of your mind (because I was lonely) and want to go back to work.
This (kind of) feels the same. All our friends still work, so do many of our relatives. That means that I currently cannot really socialize as much as I apparently need. I compensate by using Twitter and Slack to interact with many of you, but it’s just not the same as getting coffee and having a chat.
How it ends
This video also shows how it should end, with a bang 🙂
I’m in the process of making plans to have more social interactions, but it’s not as easy during normal “work” hours. Most people still have a job, go figure! That is why I might need to shake up my side hustle, as this does provide opportunities to improve the amount of “human interactions”.
Perhaps I also should get that dog (or two). Get’s you out of the house and meet other dog owners, always a fun thing! Or I need to start a side hustle in walking dogs. Financially that is perhaps the smartest move too.
Last weekend we (Mrs. CF and a few FIRE-y friends) also came up with some big ideas for next year. I cannot tell you yet what that is, but keep an eye out in the coming months for some interesting news. This should also help with more interactions. Interesting times ahead!
As noted before, hurry up you guys! I need more people to quit there jobs so that I can annoy you 😉